Really? The Wacky World of Meeting Women on the Internet

I rejoined Match.com a few days ago. I've belonged to Match 4-5 times since the early 2000's. I rejoined because they have the largest database of potential partners. Before I came back to Match, I was on a couple of smaller "niche" dating sites, but they just did not have enough members to be effective in what is essentially a numbers game.

At this point, I've recently only "dated" one person I've met on a dating site. I was more interested in her than she was in me, and we wound up friends, but she woke me up, lightly cracking me open to realize how much I want a partner in my life. But since I can't yet speak to the dating part on internet dating this time around, this article is going to focus on meeting people. It will also be focused on a man's perspective but I hope it will be useful to women as well.

The last time I was on Match, my inbox literally blew up with over 90 responses to my profile in a couple of days, and that is happening again as I'm writing this. I don't attribute that to me being some kind of fabulous guy (although I think I am!). I think the real reasons my inbox blows up are twofold: One, as a professional writer and a men's and couple's counselor, I write a really good profile, and I'd like to think that's part of it, but I also think it's because I'm fresh meat.

Fresh, red meat. To quote the Eagles, " There's a New Kid in Town ." The ladies are aged, yes but there's a huge market of women 60 and older, divorced and widowed, that are looking for partners

I only need one. The right one.

Separated, Not Divorced

I don't just immediately jump in when a previous relationship ends. I've been married twice and my personal style is to get to know who I am as a single person again before I unfairly foist myself on a new potential partner. As a consequence, I'm somewhat amazed that a portion of the women who initiate contact with me are only separated, their divorces not yet finalized.

I can't help but wonder how someone can proceed to move toward another relationship before their current relationship is complete. It may be over, but it's certainly not completed and it's doubtful that such a person has had an opportunity to fully heal. It's just too fast. My experience supports the idea that these are people who can't bear to be alone, and they invariably wind up carrying the problems of the last relationship into the new relationship, creating a cycle of broken relationships. When I'm contacted by one of these women, I politely decline engagement as I'm not interested in dating someone who is still married. This is not a moral judgment. It's a discernment based on knowledge of how things usually work. Not always, of course, but who wants …

High Street Shopping Versus Internet Shopping

When you think of shopping, do you associate high street shopping or internet shopping as your preferred medium? There are of course, advantages and disadvantages to both but which one is better overall? This may be dependent on your personal preference or which is the most convenient for purchasing goods at a given time. This can also be determined by availability. Some goods may only be obtainable either online or from a physical shop.

Twenty four hour convenience

In today's hectic twenty-four hour society when everything is driven by convenience and time the internet can be an invaluable source when used properly. When many people seem to have a distinct lack of time, the internet is often used for the purchase of goods. It can also provide a valuable first port of call if a consumer is seeking information but looking to actually buy a product in-store or at a physical place instead of online. A good example of this is buying a car. Often information is searched for regarding potential purchases online but then the actual point of sale comes from a dealership. This is also true of buying property. Information can often be gleaned from an estate agency or property website beforehand but the actual purchase is made on the high street. The internet can also be good if you are time restricted. If you know exactly what you are looking for, need something quickly but do not have the time to go to the high street during your normal working week, you can order something online and it can arrive the next day.

The internet can save time

It can definitely be beneficial to do some of your shopping online. For example, you can save at least an hour per week if you select your grocery shopping online and have it delivered to your property. The only downside to this is the fee incurred for the delivery every week. Purchasing items such as books and CDs online can also save time. In many cases items such as these can also be cheaper to purchase online than on the high street. The internet can also be a fantastic resource for the research and the purchase of non-everyday products such as sex toys, birthday or Christmas presents and jewelery. Online banking can also be a far more convenient way of transferring money from one account to another then going into a high street bank or building society.

The advantage of the high street

If you have the time to have a good browse, the high street can be a better option. If you buy clothing from the high street, trying the items on in a changing room prior to purchasing ensures that the garments are the correct fit. If you are purchasing clothing online, unless you have the exact same item in your possession, you cannot guarantee that it will fit. If you buy the item online from a reputable online retailer and it does not fit you can …