Rather than refer to explicit anatomy, most women prefer to use vague references to 'down there'. Given women's aversion to genitals, many of the terms for female genitals come from men's vocabulary and are considered obscene by women. The word 'pussy' is perhaps the equivalent of 'willie' for boys. A woman's clitoris is much less apparent than a man's penis. Men are, in any event, more intent on penetrating a woman's vagina.
A girl has a vulva, including clitoral glans, labia and vaginal opening. The mound at the front covered in pubic hair is the vulva. From front to back there is first the urethra (opening for urinating), next the clitoris, then the vaginal opening, the perineum (bridge of skin) and the anus at the back.
Women buy magazines that display women's bodies. Women compete with each other to attract male attention. Women are not interested in male nudity. What have they to gain? A man needs to be erect (which is totally up to how attractive he finds a partner) before anything can happen. When he is erect, it makes no difference whether a partner is aroused or not. He just needs a woman who is amenable to him demonstrating his masculinity.
Humans get competitive when comparing themselves with others. In general, we conclude that more is better than less and that big is better than small. A man is not sexier because he is more responsive than average. Nor does having a bigger penis than average make him a better lover. Similarly, a woman is not sexier because she is more attractive than average. Women compete with other women over looks. So a woman is just as likely to judge other women foremost by their looks rather than their achievements. If women did care what men thought, the effect would be much less.
A woman who is flat-chested may feel just as insecure as a man who has a small penis. We are attractive to someone not just because of how we look but also because of who we are. It's about appreciating what we value in another person and about valuing the love that another person feels for us. We cannot all be blessed with amazing looks but, hopefully, we have other qualities that compensate. There is someone out there for each of us.
Attractiveness is defined primarily in terms of the fashion of the age and is not absolute. Finding a partner has much more to do with matching personalities than being stunningly attractive. The emphasis on young women is not completely down to men. Indirectly women reinforce this prejudice because of the drive young women have to impress men with their looks and hopefully obtain a mate who will support their family goals.
With the advent of high budget movies, digital photography and the internet, images of attractive women are displayed everywhere. Many of these images are enhanced so as to maximise apparent attractiveness. Women feel under increasing pressure when they compare themselves with these …